Greetings, Abby My 20-year-old son is a senior in college. A baseball player, he is on the verge of proposing to the woman he has been seeing for a year and a half.
She and my wife don’t get along at all. She takes eight medicines a day and has numerous health issues. When she visits our home, she rarely has the stamina to do much but lounge around due to her illnesses.
She used to work at a market packing groceries, and she would often walk 10 to 12 kilometers every day. In order to work at an ice cream business where she does some walking, she left that job.
She claimed she was too exhausted to attend our get-together at my other son’s residence. “Really?” was the message my wife sent to my kid. from ice cream scooping?
The girlfriend saw the message after having to use my son’s phone. She will no longer interact with us after her feelings were wounded. (They still demand that we cover their wedding expenses as well as the gas and upkeep for his vehicle so that he can see her folks nearly every day.)
We are done with her, but we still want to help our son. And I could tell you so much more. Please assist. — WHO IS OVER IT, DAD?
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Greetings, Dad: Your son’s fiancée has serious health issues if she takes eight prescription drugs a day. Part of it is probably her weariness. It’s unfortunate that she can’t live up to your standards. I can see how your wife’s remark would have upset her in the given situation. Apologize to her if you wish to stand with your son.
I should also mention that your son is not yet financially ready for the responsibilities that come with marriage if he is not able to support himself. Although his fiancée might be ready to assist, her income is now meager and could completely disappear if she gets sick. It could be wiser to postpone the wedding given the current circumstances.
Abigail Van Buren, better known as Jeanne Phillips, is the author of Dear Abby. Her mother, Pauline Phillips, began the company. For more information, visit www.DearAbby.com or send an email to P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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