Dear Abby: Is it romantic, or creepy, that my high school hookup is still in love with me after 30 years?

Greetings, Abby I am a woman of 48 years of age. I started seeing this guy who was in my friend circle when I was seventeen. I chose to have sex with him in his car since I knew he was crushing on me. For him, it meant everything, but for me, it meant nothing.

Over the years, he has attempted to contact me. He was unmarried if I was. I did had a brief reunion with my first husband after his death. I suppose I should have refrained from doing it. He was married when I asked if he wanted to go on a date. (His marriage was short-lived.) Then he became irritated that I was dating a great man.

My old high school hookup is pouting and disappointed since I’m married to that amazing man. He’s saying that he loves me and that I should leave my marriage for him. That is not what I will do. Is it romantic or unsettling that he still loves me after thirty years? Texas has a history.

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DEAR GOT HISTORY: It seems that your relationship from high school hasn’t developed emotionally since then. What’s going on in his mind is rude, not romantic.

It’s a little unsettling that he is unable or unwilling to advance in his own life.

Say that when you advise him to get on with his own life and stop bothering you and your husband. After that, block him if you need to.

Abigail Van Buren, better known as Jeanne Phillips, is the author of Dear Abby. Her mother, Pauline Phillips, began the company. For more information, visit www.DearAbby.com or send an email to P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

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